Category: Divorce Diva

As the World Turns.. Marci’s Life Continued to Implode

March 10, 2025

If life was a soap opera, and let’s be honest, it is, we might call it One Life to Live, unless you are dealing with divorce in which case it’s “One Life to Life While a Thousand Arrows of Pain come Hurling your Direction.”

or “All My Children Make Me Have to see my Ex Again which Makes Me Feel like that Cat Walking Across Hot Coals.”

I prefer to not see him ever so I can pretend he doesn’t exist. But alas, while I keep building a beautiful pink bubble around myself, pesky reality keeps puncturing holes in it, forcing me to deal with pain I’d rather wish away.

Learning to Love The Truly Dazzling World of Solitude

January 7, 2024

Conjure up a parliament in old England: a stately room of soaring ceilings, carved wooden chairs and podiums, colorful flags and the smell of lemon furniture polish and Old Spice wafting through the air, except in this room the scents change to freshly fallen leaves,

The Truth About Infidelity

November 10, 2022

Our culture tells us that when it comes to relationships, lying and cheating are no big deal. Look at our elected officials, people in the public eyes, even the other parents in your community. So many people are having affairs on their spouse that it’s become “normalized,” and the family courts created the “No fault” divorce laws. In the divorce world, we are told over and over by lawyers, judges, and therapists that it is “no big deal” to have an affair. Everyone is doing it.
Nothing could be further from the truth.

The Healing Properties of Dancing in the Rain

June 29, 2022

Then I thought, I wonder if Anger Gardening is a form of therapy?
If it’s not, it should be. It’s dazzling in its wildness and simplicity. I watered my soul garden with my tears and my rage, then lifted my face to the rain and felt my soul bloom into a thousand blossoms lit by fireflies.

Poison

May 6, 2022

Will there ever be a time when talking to my ex-husband doesn’t feel like drinking poison?

The (Kind Of) Invisible Woman

April 27, 2022

As I sat alone at the bar at Chez Josephine, I hung my pink beach ball purse on the hook under the bar and ordered my favorite champagne. Before long, the bartender saw my purse and gasped, so I pushed it over to her. She slung it over her arm and paraded around the restaurant for people to admire her. The other women sitting at the bar began gushing about my feathered cape and entire ensemble. I was surrounded by red velvet walls, a blue tin ceiling, dripping chandeliers, and massive images of my favorite icon, Josephine Baker. Someone was singing boisterously in French, and the bar was lively with people shouting and laughing.
I sat quietly, bathed in the soft lights, and just… was.

Travelers: Packing Tips for Hats

December 21, 2021

Packing tip: if you are traveling with large hats, don’t pack them, wear them.
Wouldn’t it be dreamy if people started wearing large hats while traveling? Out with sweatpants and messy buns… in with large hats and beautiful travel attire!
Whenever I enter a hat shop while traveling, my fantasy world kicks into overdrive, and with each one I try on, I become different characters dropped into fantastic worlds.
I inevitably fall in love with the biggest, most ornate ones, and I’m overcome with that feeling of “My life will not be complete without you, oh darling hat!”

When you feel destroyed, create!

August 23, 2021

Because I felt so crushed, so destroyed, I started to create, all day every.
I painted my longing for strength, I danced my grief through my body, and I wrote, faster, harder, wilder…

Attending My First Wedding as a Divorcee Was Not What I Expected

July 28, 2021

Last week I attended my first wedding as a divorcee, and I wasn’t expecting the cascading waves of mixed emotions. I was happy for my niece of course, and I do adore romance and beauty, but there were moments at the wedding that were zings of pain, like little divorce bees were flying around, stinging me here and there…